Tools for Parenting the Modern Teen

Preparing to Launch

Preparing to Launch

We all know of those movies where an adult child is still living in their parent's basement: eating their food, borrowing money for gas, attempting to date. Nobody wants that. The child themselves, the potential mate, and of course... the parents. To prevent the above...

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A Brain Under Construction

A Brain Under Construction

Teenagers can really seem crazy at times. They aren’t. They can appear to wig-out, not make sense or lose-it over the simplest of things. But they aren’t crazy. They are going through some serious brain reconstruction, reconfiguring and refurbishing. It used to be...

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Parenting Toolkit

Parenting Toolkit

Some Tips and Tools for your Parenting Toolkit This is not an article, but a few points that I feel are very poignant when raising teenagers. Try adding some of these to your repertoire, keep doing them if you already are, OR...try some out! Learn to tolerate the way...

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The Healthy Mind Platter

The Healthy Mind Platter

“The Healthy Mind Platter” developed by Daniel Siegel and David Rock, was first introduced to me when I had the privilege of hearing Dr. Siegel speak at a Psychologist Conference in 2013. I have since referred to it in many of my parent and student presentations, in...

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Novelty-Seeking and Risk-Taking

Novelty-Seeking and Risk-Taking

“The only thing worse than taking risks in adolescence is NOT taking risks” -- Daniel Siegel, MD   The above quote is one of my favourites from Daniel Siegel, a very influential adolescent psychiatrist. I repeat the quote often and I truly believe in it. Teens...

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The Dad in the Dressing Room

The Dad in the Dressing Room

I had an awesome experience last weekend.  I witnessed a dad do an absolutely stellar job with his teenage daughter. I know there are so many great dads out there, but this particular exchange had to be documented 🙂 I was in the Banana Republic Outlet Store. I was in...

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Just Be Nice

Just Be Nice

Just be nice. Nope – this phrase doesn’t work for me anymore. I used to think to be nice, polite, kind, were the most important character traits to have. And they are important to have as part of our entire personality repertoires. But when we teach our kids to be...

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The Uber Feeler

The Uber Feeler

Ok, I’ve sort of made this word up: ‘Uber Feeler’. Also known as the Sponge; the Super Feeler; the Empath; the Nurturer. I learned the phrase ‘Super Feeler’ in a training I underwent with two fabulous psychologists, Joanna & Adele out of Toronto...

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Out with Perfectionism!

Out with Perfectionism!

As I was writing this article, I wanted to make sure my grammar was perfect. Then I thought, wouldn’t it be ironically awesome, if there were mistakes throughout? And… I was ok with this? The perfectionist in me didn’t like this idea. BUT if you see any mistakes, know...

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Relationships

Relationships

It's hard enough trying to navigate the inner world of a teenager, considering the massive changes that occur in their brain, but when you add the complexities of relationships, social media, cultural pressures…. things can get overwhelming! My mentor in the...

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The Necessity of Boredom

The Necessity of Boredom

Whenever I talk to parents, teachers or students, I try to encourage the idea of ‘BOREDOM’. The first thing I hear is: “we don’t have time to be bored!!!”. Yes, I get it. We are a busy society. We are on-the-go from 7:00 am until 10 pm, maybe even longer, only to do...

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A Better Brain Through Sleep

A Better Brain Through Sleep

Adolescents need good, restorative sleep (at least 9 hrs a night) in order to manage the everyday stressors that being a teenager can bring. Part of how to get high-quality sleep is by having good sleep etiquette. Adolescents should (ideally) take an hour before bed...

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Anxiety is Not a Feeling

Anxiety is Not a Feeling

It wouldn’t be unusual for you to hear a person say that they are feeling anxious. However, anxiety is actually not a feeling! I describe anxiety as a lid on unwanted or undesirable emotions. We have to feel our feelings AND we have to feel competent with handling...

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